Sometimes life can feel a little messy.
We don’t feel like ourselves. We don’t feel like there’s consistency. We don’t feel like there’s certainty.
And there are so many reasons we can feel like this, both good and bad.
A new job. A new place to live. Moving cities. Moving countries. Travel. A breakup. A fall out. Gaining weight. Losing weight. New goals. New friends. The end of an era. The beginning of a new one.
These things make our lives feel messy because they disrupt our routines.
We spend a lot of time and and a lot of money trying to escape the mundane and predictable. And yet it’s the mundane and predictable that keeps us sane – it anchors us when everything around us is changing.
If you’ve ever changed jobs then you’ll probably know the ‘messy’ feeling I’m talking about.
The new job forces you to change certain parts of your routine – maybe you have to wake up at a different time, maybe you can’t go to your gym anymore because of your new hours or new location, you might have to dress differently or act differently and you’re so busy concentrating on not screwing it all up that you decide you’ll just let everything else slide for a few weeks (while you get settled) and then it takes at least a few months to get it all back.
And you’ll definitely know the feeling if you’ve travelled for more than a couple of weeks at once.
Constantly moving, constantly waiting. Packing and unpacking. Different meals, different time zones, different languages. It’s exciting but it also feels messy, and it can only go on for so long before you start craving routine.
That messy feeling isn’t easy to get rid of.
We make perfect plans to get our lives back on track and come up against obstacles – whether they’re self-made excuses or otherwise. But I’ve found that keeping little things the same everyday is a really good way to start getting that sense of routine (and togetherness) back.
Below are 5 things I like to do when life starts feeling messy. I don’t do them all at once mind you – I just pick a couple and try to do them as consistently as I can.