How To Stop Feeling Guilty That You’re Not Studying When You ‘Should Be’

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This might not be advice you’ve heard before.
 
I’ve been a uni student for 6 years and have never heard it and I’ve only been doing following it for a few weeks myself. But I just wanted to share the idea I’ve had because it might strike a chord with you.
 
Over the course of my time as a uni student I have always approached study the same way – every hour of the day, every day of the week and every week of the semester is a potential time to study.
 
I definitely don’t study all the time, but I do feel guilty about the fact I’m not studying all of the time.
 
There is no boundary.
 
I never thought it was a problem because everyone struggles with it. Every student I know gets that nagging ‘I should be studying’ feeling, even if they’re out somewhere and can’t study. Even if they’re spending time with family and friends. Even if they’re doing something fun purely for the purpose of having a break from studying. We feel guilty and the guilt is real.
 
I thought that’s just the way it is. 
 
But a few weeks ago I had a little epiphany when I was reading the 4 Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss. This isn’t a book that’s necessarily about study, it’s about how to work less (pretty much) and besides a few really interesting time management things I didn’t really think there was much else I could use.

And then I remembered something my friends and I always say to each other – that we wish we could have weekends completely off, without the thought that we ‘should be’ studying. We long for the days when there will be a clear distinction between work and play and yes, we’ve even said stuff like ’I can’t wait to have a full-time job so I can have weekends off’ (don’t worry, I realise this isn’t a reality for a lot of full-time workers either).

So besides the fact that this doesn’t really make any sense, we long for the 9 to 5 because we long for someone to tell us we can put the books away at 5pm (or even 8 or 9pm). But why wish away the awesome student lifestyle we have just to get the distinction between work and play?

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How To Travel On A Tiny Budget

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There are SO many things I love about travel:
 
Getting out of my comfort zone. Meeting new people. Making new friends. Doing things I wouldn’t normally do at home. Having complete control over what I do everyday. New surroundings. New food. New culture. New adventures.
 
Actually, the majority of things I love about travelling have nothing to do with being somewhere new. I don’t need to spend money on a flight to make new friends, have an adventure or have complete control over what I do everyday. I don’t need to use my annual leave to experience a new culture, to have new surroundings, to have new experiences.
 
These are all things I can do at home.
 
But first let me get something straight - I’m not saying you shouldn’t travel. Hell yeah you should. But you don’t have to be on holidays to have these experiences, and this is only something I realised after returning home from my last trip a couple of months ago.
 
Being somewhere new helps us have these experiences. We’re forced out of our comfort zone and into new surroundings. We want to make the most of our trip so we make sure we do things we normally wouldn’t be doing at home. It’s easy to make new friends and to meet new people. 
 
So why do we feel like we can only have these new experiences when we’re not at home?
 
There’s nothing like the feeling that we’re wasting money to help us make the most of an experience, and I think this is one of the reasons we can get so lazy at home. 

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You Are Not Too Busy

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We all like to feel special and there’s one really easy way we like to do it. We convince ourselves that we’re ‘too busy’ to do stuff.
 
It’s such a good one – we feel important, we feel like we’re needed and we don’t feel guilty that we’re not doing what we set out to do. Plus it’s just so easy to believe: ‘I’m busy and I’m not going to the gym everyday’ so easily becomes ‘I’m not going to the gym everyday because I’m busy’.
 
It’s so easy to make a link that, in reality, doesn’t exist.
 
There are busy people who go to the gym everyday. There are busy people who read for 30 minutes everyday. There are busy people who make healthy, delicious food to take to work. There are busy people writing blog posts, seeing their friends and family, taking their dog for a walk. And a lot of these people are just as busy as you. The only difference is that these people make time. 
 
You’re busy – you’re not just going to find a spare hour floating around. No one is successful because they find time. 
 
You have to make it. 
 
I think when we use the ‘too busy’ excuse there is usually one of three things going on:

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Do You Play To Win Or Do You Play To Not Lose?

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Have you ever asked yourself this question? ‘Do I play to win or do I play to not lose?’

At first these probably sound like the same thing, right? If you’re winning you’re also not losing. But really they’re completely different things – they’re completely different mindsets.

When you’re playing to win, you’re focused on what could go right. And when you’re playing to not lose, you’re focused on what could go wrong.

We all think we’re playing to win, but we’re not. We’re certainly trying. We study hard. We work hard. We try to be healthy, productive, positive and ‘good’ with our money.

But there’s something in the back of our heads telling us that maybe we shouldn’t shine too brightly.

Shining brightly is scary. You get attention and when you get attention there will be more people who will notice if you fail.

There’s something telling us we shouldn’t stand out from the crowd. We shouldn’t do anything too unconventional and we certainly shouldn’t try anything that’s failed for someone else.

How do you know if you’re playing to win?
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The Saving Game: How To Trick Yourself Into Saving More Money

Ride With Me BabySo I’m in a situation that probably sounds all too familiar. I’ve just returned from an amazing trip overseas and my bank account is hurting – bad.

There are just so many amazing things to see and do (and eat) and it’s so easy to get more than a little carried away. If you’ve ever travelled anywhere, ever, I’m pretty sure you know what I’m talking about.

I made a big effort to save before I left but, to be completely honest with you, I still ended up dipping into some of my other saving accounts (including the one for emergencies, which isn’t easy for me to admit – I’m not perfect). And it’s left me in a situation where I need to seriously rehab my finances.

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5 Ways To Set Yourself Up For A Productive Day, Every Day

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You may remember I’ve been having a bit of a struggle with motivation. And while I can’t say the struggle is completely over (and I fear it never will be), I have been making some headway.

I started looking at the things I do every day and, more particularly, every morning to see whether there was something I could change.

I wanted to figure out why some days so productive while others are just blah, and whether there was anything I could do about it.

This is what I discovered:

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What I’m Reading This Month – July

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So maybe you noticed that I didn’t do one of these posts in June and really, that’s because I didn’t read anything. 

June is not my favourite month of the year. For me it means exams, stress and winter so any kind of ‘extra’ reading is definitely off the cards.

But now it’s July and July is different.

I’m in Europe (currently in my friend’s apartment in Paris) and I can pretty well do whatever I like with my time. There’s nowhere I ‘have’ to be and I’m going  to have a lot of time on planes and trains for reading.

So I was pretty happy when I got to Brisbane Airport and saw a book that I’d really wanted to read but had completely forgotten it existed until I saw it (I have no idea why my brain does this to me haha)

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