And then I remembered something my friends and I always say to each other – that we wish we could have weekends completely off, without the thought that we ‘should be’ studying. We long for the days when there will be a clear distinction between work and play and yes, we’ve even said stuff like ’I can’t wait to have a full-time job so I can have weekends off’ (don’t worry, I realise this isn’t a reality for a lot of full-time workers either).
Have you ever asked yourself this question? ‘Do I play to win or do I play to not lose?’
At first these probably sound like the same thing, right? If you’re winning you’re also not losing. But really they’re completely different things – they’re completely different mindsets.
When you’re playing to win, you’re focused on what could go right. And when you’re playing to not lose, you’re focused on what could go wrong.
We all think we’re playing to win, but we’re not. We’re certainly trying. We study hard. We work hard. We try to be healthy, productive, positive and ‘good’ with our money.
But there’s something in the back of our heads telling us that maybe we shouldn’t shine too brightly.
Shining brightly is scary. You get attention and when you get attention there will be more people who will notice if you fail.
There’s something telling us we shouldn’t stand out from the crowd. We shouldn’t do anything too unconventional and we certainly shouldn’t try anything that’s failed for someone else.
How do you know if you’re playing to win?
So I’m in a situation that probably sounds all too familiar. I’ve just returned from an amazing trip overseas and my bank account is hurting – bad.
There are just so many amazing things to see and do (and eat) and it’s so easy to get more than a little carried away. If you’ve ever travelled anywhere, ever, I’m pretty sure you know what I’m talking about.
I made a big effort to save before I left but, to be completely honest with you, I still ended up dipping into some of my other saving accounts (including the one for emergencies, which isn’t easy for me to admit – I’m not perfect). And it’s left me in a situation where I need to seriously rehab my finances.
You may remember I’ve been having a bit of a struggle with motivation. And while I can’t say the struggle is completely over (and I fear it never will be), I have been making some headway.
I started looking at the things I do every day and, more particularly, every morning to see whether there was something I could change.
I wanted to figure out why some days so productive while others are just blah, and whether there was anything I could do about it.
This is what I discovered:
So maybe you noticed that I didn’t do one of these posts in June and really, that’s because I didn’t read anything.
June is not my favourite month of the year. For me it means exams, stress and winter so any kind of ‘extra’ reading is definitely off the cards.
But now it’s July and July is different.
I’m in Europe (currently in my friend’s apartment in Paris) and I can pretty well do whatever I like with my time. There’s nowhere I ‘have’ to be and I’m going to have a lot of time on planes and trains for reading.
So I was pretty happy when I got to Brisbane Airport and saw a book that I’d really wanted to read but had completely forgotten it existed until I saw it (I have no idea why my brain does this to me haha)